How to save money as a couple (2024)

Raising kids or managing an extended family household can make money discussions challenging. Half the battle for couples is establishing open and honest communication lines, especially when you have differing attitudes on how to save money.

Now, with all your financial data on the table, you can start talking about financial goals to prioritise, budget planning and how to put money away in savings. Here are some practical tips to get you started.

Any financial goal has to be specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound, according to MoneySense, a guide from the Singapore governments national financial education programme.

"Evaluate your goals by determining the timeline, target amount, available savings and action plan to achieve each goal."

Create a budget for your combined income (after taxes). Arguably, the most popular percentage-based method is the 50/30/20 rule from the book All Your Worth: The Ultimate Lifetime Money Plan. Using this method, you need to allocate:

This method makes tracking expenses convenient and easy to adjust whenever you have a new financial goal, like saving up for a house or preparing for a baby.

Depending on your kids' age, this budget can also help them understand your family's financial priorities. It's an excellent way to introduce children to what counts as a need and what counts as a want.

If you don't have one yet, make an emergency savings fund your top financial goal. A typical emergency fund contains about three to six months' worth of living expenses.

That being said, personal finance advisor Ramit Sethi, author of I Will Teach You to be Rich, encourages people to save even more. He recommends 12 months' worth of living expenses to ease financial security worries amid a global pandemic and volatile inflation rates.

In addition, couples may want to set up a separate emergency fund for family members who rely on them financially. Should the unexpected happen, having two emergency cash reserves prevents the added strain of rebuilding emergency savings from zero.

Savings insurance can be an additional source of retirement income, so your kids don't have to worry about your future financial wellbeing.

Automating your finances ensures that bills get paid on time and no costly late charges are incurred. Do the same for your savings. With the help of your bank, arrange automatic transfers from your paycheque to a savings account earmarked for emergency or retirement income.

"[Robo-advisors] typically have very low minimum investment requirements, low fees, regular and automatic portfolio rebalancing, and automated investing, and in many instances, they allow you to purchase fractional stocks," writes Bola Sokunbi in her book Clever Girl Finance: Grow Your Money.

However, Bola points out in her book that robo-advisors cannot discuss "unique life circ*mstances or investment objectives. "Most robo-advisor firms also provide human advisors at an additional cost.

A joint account can lead to better money conversations. But couples need to agree on its purpose and how to maintain the account.

Bola, a certified financial education instructor (CFEI), writes in her blog, "Part of having joint accounts means discussing with your spouse often (or at least you are forced to). It can make it easier to save up for purchases, vacations and more when you're both contributing to the funds."

Discussions about money can be stressful and filled with apprehension. Some couples can articulate their money views well, while others find these talks challenging and avoid them altogether. Moreover, conversations about money can be awkward and complicated with extended family members, depending on the type of contribution they make to the household income.

Avoid fault-finding to have productive dialogues on finances, personal finance experts advise. Maintain a frank but friendly tone to put your partner at ease, and catch yourself if you're doing more talking than listening. You may also want to consider having a family friend or financial counsellor mediate if conversations about money tend to spark conflicts.

For couples who are the decision-makers on money, a different kind of preparation may be helpful. Drs John and Julie Gottman, psychologists known for their research on relationships and families, suggest a "pre-conflict warm-up."

First, find a place with few distractions and keep phones on silent. Start the meeting by taking turns sharing five things your partner did that you appreciate. Finish by expressing gratitude for what your partner shared. According to the Gottmans, couples in long-term relationships often forget this courtesy because they brace themselves for conflict.

A pre-conflict warm-up designed to show recognition and give thanks will help defuse any tension. It paves the way for productive, rather than defensive, dialogue. Most importantly, it creates a space where both partners feel heard and understood, so conversations about how to save money become a genuine "we" effort.

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Disclaimer:

This is general information only and is not intended as financial, medical, health, nutritional or other advice. You should obtain professional advice from a financial adviser, or medical or health practitioner in relation to your own personal circ*mstances.