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Etiene Van Wyk
Etiene Van Wyk
Business Consultant, Legal Expert, Project Management, Admitted Advocate and Accredited Mediator, Financial Services, UXD, AI and Techno Junky
Published Sep 21, 2023
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Kindness, often portrayed as simple gestures like holding the door for someone or offering a comforting word, is undeniably one of the most attractive human qualities. It forms the bedrock of many relationships and is the foundation of trust and goodwill. However, kindness is much deeper than these surface-level actions. True kindness emerges when it's least expected and most needed, especially when there's nothing to gain in return.
This profound understanding of kindness becomes particularly evident in our relationship with money. It's common to meet individuals who seem kind-hearted and generous on the surface. They'll offer words of comfort, a listening ear, or even simple favours. However, the real character of a person is often revealed in moments of financial need. When asked for financial help, many individuals, previously perceived as generous, suddenly become judgmental, distant, or even hostile.
One of the ironies of human nature is the tendency of some people to proudly claim that "money isn't everything." Yet, when confronted with the prospect of parting with even a small sum, they transform into a completely different "animal." Their words of wisdom about the insignificance of wealth are quickly forgotten. It's as if their entire demeanour pivots on their monetary holdings.
A recent article by a so-called financial "guru" perfectly exemplified this attitude. He proudly shared a twenty-point guideline on the path to riches. However, by the third point, he shockingly advised to "never financially help friends or family." This stance, while it may be seen as a strict financial strategy, raises questions about the nature of such wealth. Is financial success truly worth it if it's built upon a foundation of turning a blind eye to the needs of our loved ones?
They may argue that they contribute in other ways. When they do help a friend or family member it comes with judgement and pressure, often accompanied by endless reminders of their "generosity," and do little more than taint the act itself.
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Moreover, it's alarming when individuals equate their financial success to being 'blessed', insinuating that their prosperity is a testament to their faith or generosity. While faith can be a source of strength and guidance, it's misleading to suggest that material success is a direct result of spiritual righteousness, especially if one's financial gains result from ruthless business strategies.
Not every person who finds themselves in financial difficulty is there due to their own actions or choices. Even if they made some wrong decisions, the complexities of life often bring unforeseen challenges that can derail even the most meticulous financial plans. Economic downturns, sudden job losses, unexpected medical emergencies, and global events, such as pandemics, can swiftly change a person's financial landscape. Therefore, it's essential to approach the topic of financial hardship with empathy and understanding, recognising that many factors, often beyond an individual's control, contribute to such situations.
In conclusion, while financial stability and success are commendable achievements, they should never overshadow the essence of genuine kindness. Remember, a bank balance is just a number, but the way we treat others, especially in their moments of need, defines our character. True success encompasses both material prosperity and a heart that willingly gives without judgment. Because, in the end, our legacy is not just about the wealth we've accumulated, but the lives we've touched with true kindness.
Author: E van Wyk (bluntlysaid.com)
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