If you have gone through a breakup and you want to get him back, there are ways that you can do this. Sometimes everybody needs a break from a relationship but this doesn’t mean that it is the end for good. There are many theories regarding how to make him miss you and many wonder if you should leave him alone in order to get him back? This is the topic we are going to be looking at today and answering the question, does silence make a man miss you? By putting the mentioned steps into practice, you are guaranteed a loving relationship with the man that you want to get back in your life.
Does he miss me?
When going through a breakup, many women wonder does he miss me? And of course, they really want the answer to be yes! You need to keep in mind however that this actually depends on a few factors including how long you were in the relationship, how much he liked/loved you, the reason you split up and so on. For the most part, he WILL miss you and will want you back if you work the situation to your advantage. Is begging for forgiveness and coming across as needy going to appeal to him? Absolutely not, you need to do the opposite. The power of silence works so well after a breakup and that is what is going to be discussed in further detail in the following points.
Will he come back if I leave him alone? Why you need to leave him alone
Men are quite complicated creatures and they can react differently to us in the aftermath of a breakup, their emotions are also very different. The majority of men will expect you to chase them after they have broken up with you. After-all, women are needy aren’t they? At least that is what he thinks and you need to prove him otherwise. When you give him the silent treatment after a breakup, the tables will turn and he will wonder what is going on with you and why you haven’t been in touch. You might be scared about giving him space after a breakup. What if he forgets you? What if he meets someone else? Stop these thoughts from running through your head and just look at the amazing benefits of leaving him alone at this current point in time.
How to leave him alone?
Many women think, ‘I can’t leave him alone’ and yes it can be really difficult, particularly in the day and age that we live in. In addition to not seeing and speaking to him in the flesh, you should also avoid phone-calls, texting and getting in touch via social media. It’s likely that you might have mutual friends so you might need to stop hanging out in some places where you know he might be for some time also. Keep yourself busy as much as you can either with work or a hobby, this is key in successfully avoiding him for the time being. While it might be difficult, keep in mind that it is definitely going to be worth it.
The benefits of the no contact rule
It stops an escalation of the breakup
Things are all very raw when a split has just happened and if you give him space for some time, you are preventing things from getting worse. Staying close to him or pestering him will only result in more arguments, more intense feelings and often even further resentment on his side too. These are all negative points and instead of bringing him back to you, this will push him away further and only increase the chance that you will never be together again. The distance will make you both calm down and any feelings of anger should slowly dissipate, as happy memories take their place.
It will make him miss you
Will he miss me after a breakup is a constant question that women have. With the majority of men, he will miss you if you leave him alone. That might sound ridiculous but there are some very good reasons behind it. ‘Distance makes the heart grow fonder’ is an expression that is very true. Time apart is so good because he will be thinking about the little things that he misses about you and what he is now lacking now in his day-to-day life. Men are definitely creatures of habit and when you take away your texts, hugs, kisses, touches and your voice, he is going to miss those things and think about you more than he thought he would.
His attraction will grow
A big reason why men break up with their girlfriend is because their attraction is waning. While this might sound shallow, attraction is a big part of a relationship. If you hang around even after things have turned sour, his lack of attraction for you will only intensify. If you give him space, his attraction will grow or seem like it is growing. This is a psychological trick that is known to be very effective for a number of different breakup situations. When you are not chasing him, you are showing yourself to be a powerful and confident women, which alone is very sexy. This is just one of the ways that the no contact rule will work in your favor when trying to get your man back.
How to make him want you back?
There are certain traits that men look for in women, or more specifically, their ex, that unknowingly makes them fall in love with them once again. Many women wonder will he come back if I leave him alone? The answer is usually yes because when you leave him alone, he will have a more positive outlook on the relationship again because you are showing the following traits.
You actually listen to what he has to say
Often as woman, we can be quite impulsive and do what we want rather than what others request from us. When he breaks things off and you don’t contact him, it actually proves that you do listen to what he has to say because you are respecting his wishes. If you do NOT leave him alone, this tells him that you are putting your own wants before his which is not appealing. Being able to listen to him is a personality trait that he is going to appreciate and it might make him think twice about why he even wanted to split up in the first place.
You are strong
Strong women are SO sexy and by giving him the space he asks for and moving on with your life without him, strength is something that he is going to see in you. For many men when they break up with a partner, they like to keep them on the back-burner as Plan B if they get lonely or don’t find what they are looking for anywhere else. By showing your strength he is quickly discovering you are refusing to be his back up plan and this is likely going to make his realize just how much he misses you and how incredible you are.
You are mature
When a child doesn’t get their way, they shout and scream until they get what they want. If THIS is the type of behavior you exhibit when he breaks up with you, he is going to see you as extremely childish and this will only confirm his thoughts that he made the right decision. You need to show him that you can handle the situation with maturity and class. This is going to make him see you in a much better light which will hopefully bring him back to you over time.
How to have a loving relationship once more?
If you are considering leaving him alone after a breakup, it might make you wonder will he come back at all? While it is not 100% foolproof, it’s definitely a method that is proven to work for all different kind of couples. You might be wondering how to enhance your relationship if you DO get him back? You just need to take things slow, have fun together and hopefully things will grow from there. Treat it like a brand new relationship again and hopefully this clean slate will work out in your favor. It will be difficult to leave him alone when you first start this plan, particularly if you were together for some time but it will definitely be worth it if and when he reaches out and says that he wants you back. The no contact rule is extremely effective and if you have already split up, what have you got to lose by giving this strategy a try?
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