When you’re in the middle of a difficult conversation, it’s common to focus solely on yourself: your ideas, your viewpoint, your feelings. But a “me-centric” approach can backfire. To achieve your goal, you need to think beyond yourself. Whilecrafting your message, you must keep the other person’s feelings and opinions in mind, too. To do so, avoid these common mistakes: don’t assume your viewpoint is obvious; don’t exaggerate; don’t challenge someone’s character or integrity; don’t blame others for your feelings; don’t tell others what they should do; and don’tsay “It’s not personal.”
Difficult conversations are difficult for a reason, and when you’re anxious or stressed out, it’s easy to say the wrong thing. And it doesn’t matter how prepared you are. Your best laid plans will go to waste if you offend or anger the other person.
Another important thing to understand about navigating difficult conversations are the 4 D's or discover, define, discuss and decide. Let's dive into this a little further. Discover: Understand the root cause of the issue (as best you can) before approaching the conversation.
Another important thing to understand about navigating difficult conversations are the 4 D's or discover, define, discuss and decide. Let's dive into this a little further. Discover: Understand the root cause of the issue (as best you can) before approaching the conversation.
Three C's of Communication to Navigate Tough Conversations
When tensions rise, it's important to use the three C's of communication–confidence, clarity and control–as well as other skills learned from the Master Resilience Training course.
difficult conversations are almost never about getting the facts right. They are about conflicting perceptions, interpretations, and values. People almost never change without first feeling understood.
If you need to, tell the person directly that you don't want to engage in conversation and let them know the reason why you don't want to engage with them. You might try saying, “I'm not trying to be rude. But I need some quiet time right now to think. Let's talk later.”
If you need to, tell the person directly that you don't want to engage in conversation and let them know the reason why you don't want to engage with them. You might try saying, “I'm not trying to be rude.But I need some quiet time right now to think.Let's talk later.”
Why should you avoid using 'but'? It can come off to someone as attacking and immediately put them on the defensive. These 'but' statements come naturally and can sometimes hurt the workplace, your relationship, or your subconscious.
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