If you write out messages line by line instead of sending them in one text then you are guilty of a habit that men hate most, a leading dating expert has revealed.
Relationship expert and matchmaker Louanne Ward, from Perth, said this approach annoys men for a number of reasons as it can 'feel controlling and embarrassing' when their phone keeps flashing or beeping.
'The woman is doing the initiation and controlling the pace and tone of the conversation,' Louanne told FEMAIL.
'When being pinged little one liner messages like a machine gun one after the next that are all part of the same message, [men] don’t get a chance to reply and things also get lost in translation.'
If you ever write out a message line by line instead of sending it all together as one large chunk, then you are guilty of a texting habit that men hate most, Louanne Ward (pictured) said
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Men also feel obligated to reply to each and every message or run the risk of 'being accused of not replying' to one or all of the elements.
'Many don't like the sound of repeated notifications, which can be both annoying and embarrassing,' Louanne said.
The matchmaker explained that when you send a message in multiple parts, men feel as though the conversation has become 'fragmented' or inconsistent.
'They might have to go back and re-read it multiple times to answer it so it takes them twice as long,' she said.
Because men by nature don't spend as much time communicating via text, she added that for them it can feel like 'pressure or dominance'.
Louanne (pictured) said many women message this way because they don't like being ignored by men and take the opportunity to get as much out as possible
But why do we as women so often like to send messages in this way?
According to Louanne, the main reason is because they don't like being ignored.
'We take the opportunity to get as much out as possible when we know a guy is on his device, whereas if we send one long message he might disappear,' she said.
This tactic is often used because women are looking for immediate answers.
What women hate in men's messages
* Being left unread (especially if they see the guy online)
* Being read and not replied to
* One or two word answers
* Being asked for naked and sexy pictures all the time
* Inconsistency
* Being sent unsolicited di*k pics
* Only being told 'I love you' by text messages not in person
* Being dumped via text message
* Being replied to with just an emoji or starting/having conversations with emojis and not words
* Being gaslighted or called the wrong name
* Being called 'my dear', 'darling', 'sweetheart', 'honey' etc prematurely
* Explicit inappropriate sex talk
* Vague messages
* Sarcastic messages that can be taken two ways
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What men hate in women's messages
* Being pinged little one liner messages like a machine gun one after the next that are all part of the same message
* Being sent exhaustingly long messages expecting equally long replies
* Being told off in a text message
* Talking about serious matters and not letting up
* Being accused of not replying to a message when they have been busy or away from their phone
* Being messaged all day asking trivial questions like 'how's your day going?' or 'what are you up to?' and expecting responses
* Whinging or negative conversation they can do nothing about
* Being asked 'What should I wear'
* Picking a fight or arguing
* Too many emojis
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There are many texting habits men and women have that annoy the other sex, Louanne (pictured) said, including when women ask trivial questions all day
Texting line by line isn't the only messaging habit that women have that men hate, Louanne said.
She also said that messaging all day asking trivial questions like 'how's your day going?' and using too many emojis as habits that drive men mad.
On the flipside, Louanne said women hate when men leave them unread, using one or two word answers and sarcastic messages that can be read two ways.
'Vague messages that skip around a question are a big no no of women's, which men sometimes do,' she said.
For example, a woman might ask 'are we catching up tomorrow?' and a man will reply: 'I will try'.
'It's not a clear yes or no and leaves a woman hanging,' Louanne said.
FAQs
'Many don't like the sound of repeated notifications, which can be both annoying and embarrassing,' Louanne said. The matchmaker explained that when you send a message in multiple parts, men feel as though the conversation has become 'fragmented' or inconsistent.
What do guys hate over text? ›
Overly-long texts
Or just talk about what you want to say in person. On the flip side, don't send him a 2000-word essay on 10 different topics. Your years of university working on dragging out topics is not a skill that needs to be practiced in men.
Do men like when women initiate texts? ›
Yes, men love it when you text first. Yes, guys like it when girls make the first move. They find confidence and assertiveness attractive.
How does texting destroy relationships? ›
Texting may facilitate communication in long-distance relationships but can also lead to a lack of trust. Late replies, unpleasant messages, and frequent texting contribute to misunderstandings and trust issues, affecting emotional intimacy.
What are red flags when texting a guy? ›
Constantly messaging/texting/calling.
This prospective partner will try to make you believe that they just can't be without you and want to hear from you at all times. However, this is a form of control.
What kind of texting do guys like? ›
Guys are more likely to respond to lighthearted texts.
Talk about the things he likes to do, make him laugh, and use emojis to make your texts sound more fun so he keeps chatting. If you need to have a serious conversation, do it in person instead.
What a guy thinks when you stop texting him? ›
When you stop texting him, he'll imagine that you're no longer interested in him. He'll imagine that you've lost interest or forgotten about him. This can cause anxiety and stress, especially if it follows a good date. It's important to realize that this is a very natural thought on his part.
Do guys that like you text everyday? ›
When a guy likes you, he's going to keep putting in the effort over text, even after you two get to know each other. You'll notice that he consistently texts you every day, or he always sends a good morning text throughout the week. This is a great sign, because it means he's not trying to lead you on.
Do guys like I miss you texts? ›
Do guys appreciate receiving 'I miss you' texts? Yes, receiving 'I miss you' texts is the best feeling for a man or woman. It indicates that the person is thinking about them, cares about them, and loves them.
Do high value women text first? ›
A High Value Woman Does Not Initiate All Texts
Being a high-value woman isn't about playing hard to get; it's about knowing you're worth being pursued. If you're always the one chasing him down with texts, stop. Let him reach out to you too.
Text two or three times a week if you're keeping it casual. If you've only gone on a couple of dates so far, it might seem like you're coming on too strong if you text every day. Try to check in when your partner isn't busy, like in the evenings or on the weekends since they'll probably reply sooner.
Why is texting everyday bad? ›
Excessive Texting
For instance, texting non-stop could indicate that one partner is clingy and needy or that they are feeling insecure in the relationship. While this is harmful to the person doing the excessive texting, it can also be smothering to the person on the receiving end.
Is texting as bad as cheating? ›
Texting may be considered cheating if the messages are flirtatious or sexual in nature, or if they signal emotional involvement between two people.
What is textationship? ›
While a 'textationship' is a relationship where two people communicate primarily through text messages. The people involved in a textationship communicate frequently through text messages, but they may not necessarily have met in person or are willing to meet anytime soon.
How to annoy a guy through text? ›
How to Prank Someone over Text
- 1 Pretend to be a bot.
- 2 Sign them up for a text list.
- 3 Act like you don't know who it is.
- 4 Send them song lyrics.
- 5 Make up the definition for an emoji.
- 6 Send a gif of the texting bubble.
- 7 Start a countdown to nothing.
- 8 Respond to a fake Facebook ad.
Using Angry-Sounding Language
Whether you insult the person, criticize them, or clearly state that you are angry, being hostile is the most unmistakable way to express anger. Use one of the following phrases to sound like you're mad: "Shut up!" "You'll be sorry!"
How do you tell if a guy is annoyed over text? ›
If you are dating a guy and his texts are short and seem to lack enthusiasm then he is likely not that interested. If your texting conversations are one-sided then that's another sign that you need to stop trying, allow him to reciprocate, or move on.
What not to say to a guy over text? ›
10 Things You Should Never Say to a Guy over Text
- "We need to talk." ...
- "My period is late." ...
- "Do you really love me?" ...
- "It's over." ...
- "What have you been up to?" ...
- "I see you." ...
- "Are you ignoring me?" ...
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